Ah, yes, a very good Gay dilemma. When I first came out many a year ago I found it so wild that everyone wanted to hug and kiss me in the Gay community. It really freaked me out at first. Straight people never hug and kiss hello or goodbye, except for older women. But then, I eventually got used to it. But still, it felt weird to kiss everyone and I only really wanted to do it with guys I liked.

Nowadays, honestly, I feel rather uncomfortable again. I mean, I'm not opposed to being affectionate, but sometimes it feels really out of hand with people I barely know. I don't mind hugging at all, but kissing on the lips feels rather too personal. There've been many a time when I've moved to kiss on the cheek when I know they're coming straight for my lips. I feel like they may feel like I'm being uncaring or rude, which is inappropriate because I feel they're being too personal to kiss me on my lips. It's a no-win situation, other than to try and pretend that everything's ok. Miss Manners gives a response here to this dilemma, but it is rather unsatisfactory. What are you thoughts?