Saturday, July 31, 2010

loving my old Joan Jett albums today. she's so awesome

Thursday, July 29, 2010

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Wednesday, July 28, 2010

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this just opened near my office. I'm in so much trouble!

ranting sweetly

Friday, July 23, 2010

a little over 5 years ago i was approached on the streets of san francisco about joining a study to find a vaccine for hiv. i started writing about it here and talked about it often over the two years i was participating. it was called the 'project t' study which was short for the drug tenofovir.

so today, the results of the study were released in vienna at an international hiv/aids conference. there's information about the results here with details here and a Q&A on the subject here.

during the study i took pills once a day for nearly two years (technically 9 months for me specifically). got lots of blood drawn and many doctor visits and lots of talk about sex. and after all that, turns out i was taking the placebo in the blind study all the while. interesting news. here's to hoping that all is this helps us find a vaccine someday soon.

Thursday, July 22, 2010

quiet days are nice but um, I'd still like to have electricity. power's out!

Wednesday, July 21, 2010

pizza night!

curious, whenever i've gone to look at the sea lions, i've never thought about eating them... "The tourists who come from around the world to gawk at the barking sea lions at San Francisco's Pier 39 can now ask a naturalist every day how the noisy pinnipeds taste and where their fine furry pelts can be purchased. The answers to these two common questions will be the same as always: It's illegal to kill, eat or sell sea lions or their skins. But any bumpkin who wants to know will have somebody to ask thanks to a visitor outreach program put together this month by Pier 39, the Bay Institute, the Aquarium of the Bay and the Marine Mammal Center.... It is hoped that the dialogue might some day reduce the number of folks curious about the flavor of sea lion meat and the quality of pinniped clothing and inspire them instead to focus on habitat preservation."

Tuesday, July 20, 2010

a few of my mom's photos from her trip to Washington and Oregon this summer:

this is hilarious and beautiful. i'm so proud it's from my hometown library system in kansas city, missouri:

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health department meeting tonight

Monday, July 19, 2010

yay, new Sheryl Crow album!

dinner at a16 in the marina with the 'wifey' and her family

Saturday, July 17, 2010

cpk for dinner


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seeing 'the kids are all right' with Annette and Julienne

Wednesday, July 14, 2010

waiting for my 'wifey' to finish shopping in the mall so we can eat dinner

so i get a telephone survey last night. about san francisco stuff. so usually there is a question about sexual orientation at the end for statistics, which is an important identifier when you want to know what the gay community thinks, especially in san francisco. so they always add on a question about how people identify themselves. but last night's survey had the following way of asking that question: "do you consider yourself heterosexual, bisexual, lesbian, queer, somewhat gay, or completely gay?" now, 'somewhat gay' and 'completely gay'. really? are those new terms? now i know what the surveyors were probably trying to get at but this isn't really the best language they should have used and it was just hilarious on its face. but, that's the newly arrived status of being asked questions about sexual orientation in surveys when most of the non-gay world has no idea how to address us. it's rather stupid that they didn't ask around to get better language than that.

Tuesday, July 13, 2010

meanwhile my kitty enjoys the sun

meanwhile my kitty enjoys the sun

I'm a pale, pale man

Monday, July 12, 2010

ran into a long lost friend in the Castro tonight. so good to see him; I've missed him

in the Castro with a New Zealand book and looking for dinner

Sunday, July 11, 2010

really enjoying the new kylie and scissor sisters albums

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going to New Zealand in September! NZ2010! I'll be celebrating my 40th birthday twice over two time zones

Saturday, July 10, 2010

watching David Fujimoto play softball

Friday, July 09, 2010

going out with the boys!

teen vogue hot topic: He's fun, trust-worthy, and supportive, plus you don't have to compete with him. He's your gay best friend--and he's in demand. This spring, sixteen-year-old Mimi* noticed a new trend at her Pacific Palisades, California, high school. The must-have items for her fashionista classmates included a Proenza Schouler tie-dyed top, a shrunken military jacket, neon-bright chunky bracelets, and . . . a gay best friend.

o to the m to the gbf

Thursday, July 08, 2010

yay President Obama with Senator-to-be Robin Carnahan in my hometown today! if i was living in KCMO again, you know i woulda been at that rally today. hell, you know i woulda probably been behind the scenes puttin' it on...

wishes my niece was in town so we could see 'dispicable me' together tomorrow. yay cartoons!

Wednesday, July 07, 2010

I'm frustrated by and tired of the same old usual stuff in my life but there seems to be this part of me that feels unsure about changing things. it's almost like I'm afraid to let go of all my inhibitions. and I wonder about how old I'm getting and whether it's useful to even ponder something different when I'm probably past my time to change things again. but then I know one always thinks that and it's never true. so I should deliberate this hunch and concept more

o to the m to the g

Tuesday, July 06, 2010

today is a I-think-I'll-grow-my-half-beard-back-again-day

new Kylie album!

Monday, July 05, 2010

I've needed sleep and finally got 12 hours last night. so helpful

Sunday, July 04, 2010

great clip of our Leno contingent in the parade last weekend during the Pride celebration. did i mention we had 200 people? looks great, and very proud of it coming together well



Senator Mark Leno contingent in the 2010 San Francisco LGBT Pride Parade with Senate President pro Tem Darrell Steinberg, his wife Julie, Scott Wiener, Theresa Sparks, HealthCare4All, San Francisco Young Democrats, and hundreds of supporters.

4th of July parade


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so i'm back blogging. it's been a complicated separation. first, i haven't been sure what to do with my blog ever since facebook took hold. i've found it easier to be part of that social network with simple statements and updates rather than blogging as i used to do over these last 10 years. and yet, i've also found it quite sad to leave my blog to dust after it has given me so much. for the last year or two it's been mostly a photo page from my flickr site. i finally got a blogger app on my iphone and i found it easy to post to blogger and facebook and twitter all at the same time with the short missives while running around the city. but it still wasn't blogging as in the past.

then, everything changed. blogger itself was changing my system and was going to delete my current format. had this been years ago i would have done everything in my power to stop that from happening early on (i had certainly been given ample notice), but i just couldn't decide whether it was a necessity this time and i questioned whether i still needed or wanted a blog. there is so much history in my blog since 2000 and i did not want to lose it, but as far as continuing on blogging in the new world of social interactive spaces like facebook and twitter i wasn't sure how to prioritize.

thankfully my friend David Farre helped me transition to the new 'reesesworld' which has a new format (due to the new blogger situation and my own lack of prioritization), but which thankfully can still be found via the original www.reesesworld.com link. and i'm pleased to see that my entire archive from over the years is still here and up. it's actually a useful tool for me to try and remember when things happened in my life, as well as just to visit and see what i was doing when.

this all comes at an iconic time for my blog. it will be 10 years ago this september when i started blogging. dear Jessie came to me sometime in the summer of 2000 and asked if i wanted a blog. at the time, blogs were new and only happening via tech-savvy people. i was not a tech-savvy person. but Jessie was and had recently created his own blog. i remember clearly stating to him, 'what would i do with a website?' i was rather reticent but then got engaged with the idea and the blog went live in early september of 2000, nearly 10 years ago.

little did i know how the blog would change my life. not only did it make my own world and thoughts and personality more public to the world, it led me to a new world of writing, friends in the blogosphere, abilities to do html and other coding which i had no knowledge of before, and a simple place to archive my life. i made friends and contacts around the world i never thought possible. people i've met in person since and people i never knew but their name and email. but so many people that i'm pleased to have met and some of which are still good friends to this day. when i started the blog it was very political with lots of links and messaging, as well as simple links to stories i was reading in the news. this was the early days of people getting there news online versus from the papers. and it gave me a place to vent my frustrations with the political system and political situations around the country. i had found a place to finally speak out.

that speaking out and writing led to some incredible changes in my own personal life. people started reading my rants and write-ups and essays. i started realizing that i was 'writing' and not just 'blogging' and could do more. i became an editor for several local newsletters and websites; i started writing for politicians and assisting in website developments for groups and campaigns and politicians; i got job offers and developed new careers based on these activities. nowadays i am actually working on the mechanics of websites and having conversations about code and tech-savvy issues which i never knew beforehand, but which i can do because of the background and history of working on my own blog.

this is why i decided 'reesesworld' was so important to me so as not to lose. additionally, i have started realizing that the posts on facebook and twitter do end up so short as to leave me wanting to be able to say more. i have writings on my facebook page in the notes section, but it does seem rather lost there. i feel more strongly about having them written on the blog now and plan to make use of my blog in the new future as a place not only for a new priority for me of writing fiction and essays, but also of continuing my posting of flicr pictures from the recent days of events in my life.

i may not do the same things i did 10 years ago, but then life changes and i have changed and the world, reesesworld, changes too. all that said, reesesworld is here to stay and is back in the game. so keep watching and checking in to see what's up in these here pages of reesesworld.

thanks for reading, and being an important part of my life.

Saturday, July 03, 2010

and we're back!

JoeandMary

“Listen, when I woke up today I was hoping we’d go to the park or something. I wasn’t planning on being stuck here inside the house all day. Now it’s 4:30 in the afternoon and we ain’t done nothin’ all day but sit around on our butts and watch the damn TV.”

Mary had had it with Joe and wasn’t afraid to tell him about it.

Silence. Joe responded with simple silence, as if he wasn’t part of any conversation.

“You coulda at least cleaned up the garage or somethin’. You know, we still have that broken garage door and you was gonna fix it months ago and we still can’t get it closed right, and Lord knows who might try to sneak on in here in the dead of night and try to rob us, or worse! How long we gonna live like this? I mean, ain’t nothin’ on that damn TV no way, so we all just been wastin’ a good day we coulda been gettin’ some stuff done or going someswhere or something. Now the day’s over and it mightaswell be Monday already cuz ain’t nothin’ gonna happen this weekend. I don’t know why I long so much for the weekends when we don’t do nothin’ but sit around and watch the TV all weekend anyway. Nothing fun. Nothing productive. It’s all just lazing around, lying on butts, and I’m here working all weekend in the house anyway. I clean, I vaccuum, I spent all day waiting on you to do something and so I did a good cleaning of the bathroom. But had I known we were just gonna sit here like always I mighta gotten out the mop and really done the floors good. Now I’ve just done a bit to where it don’t look like we live in a slophouse, but it ain’t much better than that. It’s just on the surface clean. So I ain’t really done nothing and I’m tired and bored outta my mind and I really wanted us to go to the park like I thought we would and enjoy this here Sunday. I don’t know why I put up with you!”

Joe took another sip of his beer. It was getting too warm to drink but he didn’t feel like getting up to get another cold one. He was tired and trying to pretend Mary wasn’t talking. He pretty much shut the whole conversation out of his head and tried to focus on the football game that was on. He didn’t really care all that much about the game on in front of him but it was distracting enough to keep him away from listening to her and he didn’t have to think. He really never had any interest in going to the park this morning. He’d never promised her that they would. In fact, she only mentioned it a few hours ago and by then he was already comfortable in his recliner and didn’t see any reason to move. The more she complained about going to the park the more he just tuned her out. And she kept leaving in the middle of her complaining anyway. She’d nag for a while about going and then head off to a bathroom and do some cleaning or something. He could hear her yelling from in there, but not audible enough to make out the words. When she’d come in to the living room and nag at him he just hoped she’d hurry up and go back to wherever so he could get back to watching television. He liked television anyway. It helped him not have to think. And on his day off it was his God-given right not to have to think for a day. It’s Sunday, the day of rest, ain’t it? So why would he need to think or do anything.

“Joe, are you listening to me? I’m talking here. I don’t know why I try so hard every day to get you to listen to me. You don’t do nothin’ and you never listen and you just sit there like a bump on a log. If you didn’t have to go to work tomorrow you’d probably just sit there all day and night everyday. And where would that get you? Nowhere, nohow. If it wasn’t for the commercials you wouldn’t even know when to go to the bathroom. Oh, now before you go in the back bathroom, I was cleaning up in there and I got stuff in the sink a-soaping, so don’t use the sink. But for God’ssake wash your hands after you use the facilities. So if you have to use the bathroom, go in the front bathroom. I’m still working in there but you can at least use the sink. Just be sure to clean up after yourself cuz I’m still working on it and I don’t need to try and clean up after your mess all the time. I already do that all the time anyway but it’d be nice if you helped me out a bit now and then and cleaned up just a little. Or at least didn’t make such a mess when you do stuff. I mean, gee whiz, the toilet is a big round bowl and somehow you always miss it and there’s pee up in all the place around here. It’s a big round bowl! How can you always miss that. It ain’t like it’s hard to find. It’s right there, big as day, lots of room to pee into, and you always end up on the walls. You know, you ain’t five years old no more. And I’m tired of taking care of you like you’re a child. I got my own life to live, you know. I coulda been at the park today like we had talked about but you just sit there doin’ nothin’ like always. Same as any day. Oh, now, I put out pork chops for dinner in the sink this morning to thaw out. I guess I start cooking those up in a few since we ain’t doing nothing today and we gotta get to fixin’ dinner here shortly. I worry sometimes if you’d starve to death if I wasn’t here cuz manalive you only eat when I cook. Do you even know where the kitchen is? Oh, now, I know you do since you always getting out those beers of yours. Well there’s more to a kitchen than that frigerator. Now lemme finish up this bathroom before I start fixing dinner cuz if I ...” and with that she trailed off in sound down the hallway.

Joe really hadn’t been listening to any of it anyway, but it was background noise and he figured she stop at some point. And now that she was gone back down the hall he could focus on the TV. He decided this was a good time to get up and get a cold beer while she was down the hall, so he snuck out of his chair rather quietly and eased on into the kitchen, opened the refrigerator door and grabbed one. He rushed back to the living room. But before he could get back to his chair Mary was right there standing in the living room staring him down. She began to tear into him once again as he slid back into his chair.

“Well, well, well, I didn’t know you knew how to get up outta that chair. You ain’t been out of it all day. You know it’s too late now to go the park and enjoy ourselves. Even though that would have been nice today. Real nice. Instead we still sitting around here doing nothin’! I’m so sick and tired of doing nothin! When we got married you said we’d have fun together all the time and now we just sit around and do nothin’. It breaks my heart. I shoulda never trusted you. Oh, whatever now, I’m gonna finish up in the bathroom, I’m in the middle of cleaning up the tub.”

Joe was really tired now and wasn’t about to do anything. Although he was getting hungry. He was hoping she’d start up dinner soon but he wasn’t about to say anything about it right now while she was still fuming around here. And she did say earlier she’d start up those pork chops soon. His stomach rumbled a little and he figured he’d still wait. He could use to lose a few pounds and maybe not eating for an hour or so would help that. He took another slug of his beer, the new cold one, and was happy that he had gotten it because it tasted way better than the warm one he had been drinking. His mind trailed off to the stuff he’d have to do at work tomorrow and he got real tired and annoyed and just laid back further in the recliner and shut out the world as best he could. He closed his eyes. For just a few minutes and tried to picture life without work. When he opened them back up she was standing right there in front of him.

“Are you sleeping now? I’ve been working the whole day and you’re sleeping now?! I just can’t believe you. Can’t for the life of me believe you. Why do I put up with you?”

She then walked off towards the kitchen.

“I’m gonna start dinner now. Finally finished up the tub and now I mightaswell get started on dinner while I’m up and it’s just about that time. I am so mad right now though I could spit. Maybe I will spit while I’m cooking. You’d never know. You just eat whatever I put out anyway. Now, you know I wouldn’t really spit in the food, I’m not like that. I’m a good person. But I am really mad right now and just can’t believe that I’ve put up with you all this day while you just sat there and we never did go to the park. We coulda gone to the park. Next weekend we can’t cuz we got that family dinner over at Mama’s. At least maybe we can relax a bit over there. But you know it’s always full of so much trouble with the kids and stuff so it’s hard to really relax. The park woulda been real relaxing. Just sitting out there on a nice blanket, looking up at the sky, not a care in the world. Instead, we still here doing the same ol’ thing we always do. Oh, oh oh, I forgot, now we’re out of green beens, and I know you like green beens with your pork chops, but we’ll have to have corn this time instead. So you’ll just have to deal with that. I ain’t going out to get some green beens tonight. It ain’t happening. I’m too upset for that. You’ll just have to eat the corn tonight.”

It was a commercial and Joe got up to go pee and to get another beer from the refrigerator. The bathroom was all nice and clean. That’s good. Doesn’t see the point of always cleaning all the time like she does. It never gets all that dirty. What’s the point of all this cleaning all the time. Still looked like the same ol’ bathroom. He focused a bit and tried to get all the pee into the toilet this time. It wasn’t that hard. He knows it. But sometimes it just happens. He went on to the kitchen, saw his wife standing there over the sink taking a giant fork to the pork chops and he put his hand on her shoulder. She turned around, looked up at him waiting for him to say something. And he did.

“The corn’ll be just fine for tonight.”

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